Why Helicopter Parenting Is Not Right

Always hovering over your children’s life, beware you are a helicopter parent!

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As the term clearly hints, “helicopter parenting” describes the parents who keep hovering over or in simpler words who are too interfering in their children’s lives. They rush to their help their children as soon as they see the first sign of trouble. They are always worried about their kid’s life and instead of letting their children find the solutions to their problems they plow away any obstacles from their children’s lives and they continue doing so even when the children reach their teens or are in college. Such parents never let their child face any problem or use their problem-solving skills and as a result of the children of such parents never learn to tackle any difficult situation or mental pressures. The sign of helicopter parents are:

They never let their children make age-appropriate choices

They clean the rooms of their grown-up kids

Instead of letting their teens solve the conflicts with their friends they step up to the negotiation

Overseeing their teenager’s homework

Monitoring the diet and exercise of their grown-ups

Helping their teen with their college project so that they don’t fail in it

Texting their children multiple times when in college or school

 Positives Of Helicopter Parenting:

Though the term was first coined in the year 1969 by Dr. Haim G. Ginott, it became popular in the early 2000s.

It may seem that helicopter parenting stunts the problem-solving skills of children and is of no good but the fact is that the impact of helicopter parenting on children and teens is not always bad.

To tell the truth, these parents share a very close and caring relationship with their children. It is natural for a parent to be protective, caring, helping and loving towards their children. Helicopter parenting is based on this warm and supportive parental behavior. Helicopter parents know their children like the back of their palm. They communicate, provide emotional support, and share an open bond with their children.

Negative Effects Of Helicopter Parenting:

But the effects of helicopter parents aren’t all good, either.

Studies have proven that children of hovering parents have poor psychological well-being. These children end up using prescription medication for anxiety or depression and use pain killers without medical prescription more than the other kids.

The overprotective, controlling behavior of helicopter parents limits teens’ opportunities to build the necessary skills that help them grow into mature adults who can navigate their own way of life and build their own identity. These children grow up as depressed adults who experience less satisfaction in life.

Instead of being over-involved, the parents should be supportive of their kids. The key is whether the situation calls for parents to be actively involved. They should understand that children need to change as they grow. It is important for teenagers to develop an independent sense of self. Therefore, the parents should let them test their own capabilities and face and cope with the consequences of their actions and choices.

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