Any traumatic experience leaves a long-lasting impact on a person’s life and leads to the development of various symptoms that can seriously affect a person’s ability to lead a normal life properly. These symptoms not only affect the traumatized person but also impacts those who share a close relationship with him.
Some of the symptoms include:
Decreased relationship satisfaction
Inability in expressing the emotions
Loss of interest in sexual activity and intimacy
Facing problems in communication and adjustment
Research has proved that it is because of the above symptoms that people living with PTSD symptoms have higher separation and divorce rates than others.
How Trauma Impacts Close And Personal Relationships:
Trauma can impact intimate relationships in a number of ways. Some of the most common problems that a traumatized person faces in a relationship are:
Avoiding intimacy, both emotional and physical
Anxiety and depression
Increased pessimistic attitude resulting in helplessness and hopelessness
Rising frustration, anger, confusion, and sadness
Regular arguments and difficulty in finding a resolution to problems
It is obvious that no relationship can stand strong for long if these types of problems remain unaddressed. The situation becomes much worse for partners of a traumatized people because they feel left out, alone and frustrated. This builds up stress in the relationship issues. Though both partners want to resolve the issues so that the relationship can work but they remain clueless about how to achieve that stability.
How To Work Through Trauma:
The Partners Of Traumatized Individuals Should Follow These:
The brain needs time to process the memory and information of a traumatic experience. The partner should understand that their efforts to make it all better will not bring the desired results and can leave them frustrated. Hence they should not try to fix or heal the trauma and its symptoms their partner is experiencing.
The best thing that you can do is to be available to your partner and listen to him whenever he needs to talk.
Show your understanding and emotional support by telling them that you really understand how difficult it is for them to deal with their pain and trauma.
Don’t take your partner’s behavior personally. Try to understand that your partner is actually working through a very difficult situation. Your partner does not enjoy this isolation and distance from you, this is part of the process that they are going through.
Never Close The Communication: Your partner may show reluctance to connect with you emotionally or physically but you should never close the communication with your partner. Talk to them to get to know how they would like to connect with you.
Counseling Is Necessary: It is necessary to seek professional counseling in order to help your partner and yourself work through the trauma. Try to follow some self-care rules so that you can stay strong through this challenging time. It is necessary for you to be in good mental shape so that you can support your partner in the best possible ways.
What The Traumatized Partner Should Do:
Communicate with your partner and let them know what you are feeling.
This will help your partner from unnecessary anxiety and stress.
Avoid isolation and try to be with your partner, let them know about your moods and thoughts so that they can understand you and give you the privacy that you need.
Be regular with your counseling sessions to ensure fast and timely healing
A relationship is about two people and joint efforts will make you survive the trauma together. All you will need is some patience and conscious steps in the right direction.