When you’re in a fight with someone, it’s simply terrible. The two of you probably aren’t speaking, you know the other individual is upset with you, and you just want everything to get better again. But what can you do to make sure this someone forgives you?
1. Give Them Some Space
After an argument, you need to give this person some time to relax and cool down. They probably don’t want to talk to you very soon after the fight as tensions will be high and the two of you probably aren’t thinking straight. If you try and do anything now, things may get worse. The first step to take is to take a step back and let the situation simmer down a bit, then you can proceed to the next step.
2. Forgive Yourself
How can you expect someone else to forgive you if you can’t even forgive yourself? Seriously, before you plead with someone to give you another chance, you need to make sure you are at peace with yourself first. Yes, you made a big mistake and now you are paying the price. Yes, you may have lost someone because of your ill actions. But you are only human, and sometimes we do stupid things that tick other people off. Understand that you are only human and you will make mistakes. Forgive yourself, but most importantly learn from this mistake. Once you’ve done that, admitted and learned from your mistake and forgiven yourself then you can try to talk to them.
3. Talk it Out
Sometimes all it takes for someone to forgive you is a deep, long conversation. The two of you need to discuss what happened, why they are upset about it, and what you can do to fix it. Communication is key to any relationship- whether it’s your brother, your best friend, or your boyfriend- so taking some time to sit down and really talk about things in depth is a necessary step in getting someone to forgive you
4. Ask Them for Forgiveness – And Mean It
A simple “I’m sorry” where you shrug it off like it’s no big deal and doesn’t even make eye contact with the other person while saying it is extremely insincere and the other individual will know this! You need to ask for forgiveness and actually mean it. People want to hear a genuine, sincere apology, not something they read off the back of a cereal box. If you truly want them to forgive you, you need to show them you are sincere with your apology. Make eye contact. Grab their hand. And tell them you are genuinely sorry. Not only that, but you may want to make the apology a bit longer, such as I know I made a huge mistake. I’ve ruined everything and it’s killing me inside. Please, all I want is your forgiveness. I’ll do whatever it takes. Please, something along these lines is an excellent choice.
5. Admit You Were Wrong
Okay, so you are asking for forgiveness; but can you even admit that what you did was wrong? People on the other end want to know that you understand what you did was not okay, and that you know not to do it again! Definitely admit to the other person that you were wrong in what you did, and again, apologize for your actions.
Forgiveness essentially means nothing if you don’t learn from your mistakes. You need to show them you’ve changed. If they were mad about a certain something, then fix it. Sometimes time is the only thing that will show you’ve changed, and if that’s the case, then let them know you’re not going to slip up and time will show them you mean business.