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How To Befriend Your Mind And Find Inner Peace

People are often unaware of how much thought is given to unimportant events in their lives.

“Your mind is for having ideas, not for holding them.” – David Allen

If you’re like me, I’m continually drawn to catchy quotes which spark my enthusiasm to delve into the subject matter with gusto. The title of this article may also be called “Making friends with your mind,” for that’s the premise of the discussion in the upcoming paragraphs.

People are often unaware of how much thought is given to unimportant events in their lives. Awareness is pivotal in this context. When I’m engaged in menial tasks, my mind frequently wanders aimlessly.

As the pilot of my mind, it’s my job to reel her in and tame her (I’m purposely calling my mind “her,” since I like to think of it as wild female stallion!).

Your conscious mind is a cross between a wild stallion and a chimpanzee; both wild and erratic at the best of times. The mind thrives of being in state of continual flux – and living on the edge. It is quick to make assumptions about the past and attempt to predict future; yet it has a disdain for being in the present moment.

Ask yourself this question, “what am I going to think next?” and you’ll quickly see how challenging it is to stay in the present moment. The truth remains crystal clear – you don’t know what the future holds, although your mind likes to draw conclusions based on historical information.

The mind is a store house of data. It is suggested that we rarely engage in conscious thinking, rather we call upon our storehouse of information. From age’s two to six, you’re in a subconscious learning state. Your adult thoughts and beliefs are formed during this impressionable age.

You don’t see the world as it is; rather as you are. Subject reality is the term given to describe this state of being. It is subject to the experiencer viewing the world trough his or her lens. These lenses are filters from which you create your present and future experiences.

The following are helpful exercises to befriend your mind. The key to fully understanding new concepts lies in embracing the learning by experiencing them. Engage with any teaching until you have a complete understanding at the cellular level. You must become the embodiment of that which you seek.

“My dear friend, clear your mind of can’t.” – Samuel Johnson

1. Observe and be mindful of your thoughts

Watching your thoughts means that you DON’T engage with them through validation. For example if you have a thought that says “Karen you’re so stupid, why do you keep doing this?” your mind will search its database for evidence to substantiate the thought. If you performed this action in the past your mind will draw on that experience, thus confirming your thought.

In order to circumvent this, use a neutral thought such as, “Isn’t that interesting.” This thought is observational in nature and does not require the mind to seek answers. The premise of this suggestion is to continually state and ask empowering questions.

2. Don’t judge or label your thoughts

Labelling or judging a thought is merely that – associating a good or bad label to it. When you label or judge a thought you’re categorising the thought as either good or bad (without the risk of stating the obvious). If it’s a bad thought, your mind will create a disagreeable association.

In doing so, it associates the thought with YOU being BAD, since you’re the creator of the thought. Shakespeare said: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” With that in mind (pardon the pun!) allow your thoughts to flow in and out of your mind like calm waters.

A novel approach to becoming adept at this process is via silent witness using meditation. Find some quiet time and observe your thoughts for ten minutes or so. Imagine the thoughts akin to a river and call up an image of a serene river flowing in your mind; linking these with your thoughts.

When you create this scenery, you’re inviting your mind’s faculty to disassociate any MEANING to the thought. In terms of the river analogy, this would mean water flowing in different directions or changing intensity at times. To the observer, there is nothing wrong with this change – just observe by not engaging with the thought.

3. Replace the old thought with a new one

It’s vital that you create new and empowering thoughts while cancelling out the undesirable thoughts. Allow me to demonstrate. If you’re continually sabotaging your success to find a suitable job or career, you might be engaging in the following thought, “I’ll never find the job I like. All the good jobs are taken.”

When this thought appears rather than engage with it, observe it and then replace it with an empowering one like, “the perfect job or career is making its way into my life in an easy and effortless way” or “I am attracting the perfect job or career in an easy and effortless way.”

It’s essential that you cancel the limiting thought and replace it with a new one so that your mind has a NEW frame of reference for the future. You’re training the mind by giving it a new stimuli and removing the old one.

Persist with this exercise, since it takes time to see the benefits of your hard work. Three weeks or more is a good period to begin to see initial results. I’ve been practising these techniques for over seven years and occasionally stumble when a stray thought enters my mind.

4. Question your thoughts

Just because you’re having a thought doesn’t mean you need to identify with the thought as the REAL YOU. Question the motive of your thoughts. If you entertain thoughts of lack and wish to attract prosperity, it stands to reason that you question any limiting thought around poverty wouldn’t you?

When you engage in thoughts such as “I’m poor and broke and will never amount to anything,” cancel the thought by questioning and examining it. Engage in a conversation with the thought as you would a friend.

You’ll soon notice a pattern or theme to your thoughts. Knowing this pattern, you’re suitably equipped to tame the thought process. This is akin to knowing how your friend behaves in their worst state and similarly how they act when they’re at their best.

Armed with this information you can safely navigate your way out of imminent danger by not falling victim to your thought process in the future.

The more you work with your thoughts, the more they’ll serve you. Your ultimate goal is to befriend your thoughts and become attuned to the natural rhythms of your mind.

You become mindful and aware of your thought process by not falling victim to out of control thoughts.

Awareness, patience and resilience are required to master your mind. In due time, you’ll find harmony, balance and an unwavering peace and solitude that no outside disharmony can unsettle.


Manisha Chummun

Very useful article. Thank you!

A Leading Self-Empowerment Author, Keynote Speaker and Coach. Your Journey Towards Greatness Starts Here: http://www.tonyfahkry.com/

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Do you think the world is going crazy or going mad? If you do, then you are not the only one who thinks this way. Most people feel they are living in a world of confusion and chaos. If you look around you, that is the reality you will see. But what you see is the reflection of the individual's mind.

You do not realise that when we are born, it is this world of chaos and confusion with distorted perceptions we are born into. No matter which culture or society you are born in, you will grow up thinking in the same way as the people around you with the beliefs and traditions of your society. The environment around you conditions you. So right from the word go no matter in which culture you grow up in, you will have to admit your perceptions of reality will be distorted. Therefore, to assume that we are all somehow normal and sane would be highly presumptuous.

In the medical profession, we recognise you as a normal person because you behave normally and do not disturb people around as you fit in with a pattern of behaviour which the majority considers acceptable. But if you were to act in a way that will cause harm to you or others around you, you will be labelled and treated for some mental illness. They will classify and categorise you from the list they have. They will label you as suffering from schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD etc. You will be counselled and given appropriate medical treatment. Like most people, you will think that at last the doctors have found something wrong with you and you are receiving treatment for your condition that will cure you.

If you think this way about your mental health, I am afraid you are mistaken. A diagnosis of your mental health problem does not mean we have a cure for you. It is just a label. It is you who can cure yourself by clearing up your perceptions.

Once given a label, many people try to justify or find an excuse for their behaviour. One might say "I am an alcoholic. I could not help myself. Alcohol made me do it." "I suffer from a mental illness; therefore, I cannot work anymore." etc. The list goes on.

It means the diagnosis of your mental health problem has done nothing for you. You are no better off before or after the diagnosis. Now if you want to help yourself and cure your mental health problem, you have to develop some insight into your mind. That means you have to start thinking for yourself. You have to start looking at yourself and the world around you.

To test yourself whether you have any insight into your mind after the doctors have labelled you, you have to ask yourself "Was my behaviour acceptable? Do I need to improve?". If you think there was nothing wrong with your behaviour, then, of course, you have no insight and therefore have no problem with yourself. You will no doubt, become a problem for others.

So, if you have some insight, you should ask this fundamental question to yourself, "Do I have to be this way for the rest of my life? Surely there must be a way to enjoy one's life no matter what happened in the past". If you can say "Surely there has to be a way", then you may be well on the way to full mental health recovery. It means you have some understanding of your problem and will be able to change your perceptions and thus your thinking.

In my mind, I regard mental illness only as a disorder of perception. It is the degree that determines the level at which it becomes a clinical disorder of behaviour and action.

To treat any mental illness, therefore, all we have to do is to straighten out our distorted perceptions. Our perceptions influence our thinking. If you distort them, they lead to crooked thinking. Crooked thinking leads to adverse actions, which, in turn, become the basis for any mental illness.

As one can see the medical treatment is only an adjunct to counselling, psychotherapy etc. which are therapies directed mainly at correcting a patient's perceptions. So if a person does not have any insight, what other option would one have? One would be stuck with only medical treatment.

Hence if we are to improve the mental health of society, we have to look at ourselves and examine how we can go about correcting our distorted perceptions.

Part of the reason for an increasing incidence of mental illness is the bureaucratic thinking that prevails in our legal system, governments and institutions. In bureaucratic thinking, one always goes by the letter of the law, not the spirit of the law. One is not allowed to use reason or common sense. There are no moral or ethical considerations. One is virtually intellectually handicapped. Since there is a set rule applied in managing a problem, we are stuck with it. One is obligated to follow the rules. There is no choice. If one ignores the rules, one will get blamed for whatever happens. And when one follows the rules, it does not mean that the action is necessarily correct.

A perfect example of this would be the present Coronavirus outbreak in China and how it is affecting the economies of nearby countries and the world. It has trapped Governments into a bureaucratic response which creates damned if you do and damned if you don't type of situation. It is politics for governments to show they are doing something positive to solve a problem. The media, of course, is having a field day making a big deal by dramatizing the whole situation and making people even more anxious and terrified.

But let us look at the facts. Coronavirus is a viral illness. Like the Influenza virus, it kills. There is no real cure for any virus illness. The Coronavirus spreads like the flu virus, so the precautions one takes, and the treatment one gets, are the same as if one had a flu infection. The outcome will always depend on how strong one's immune system is. All virus diseases tend to spread in the community until we develop some immunity against it. Not all people who have tested positive for Coronavirus infection have died. Then again, not all people who had tested positive for the Influenza virus in the past had died either. There have been instances where people were treated for Influenza virus infection on a cruise ship, and yet no quarantine was applied. So ask yourself, what are you getting all worked up about?

As one can see, bureaucratic thinking has great limitations. It is the bull at the gate type of approach. It is not rational thinking. Can you see how it can create anxiety and a mental health problem for someone who cannot think clearly? Please learn to straighten out your perceptions by acquiring some self-knowledge. Read "The Enchanted Time Traveller - A Book of Self-knowledge and the Subconscious Mind", and learn how to become the master of your destiny. Visit Website: Http:\\theenchantedtimetraveller.com.au

The use of CBD dates back to 2700 BC. From the Chinese using cannabis for treating constipation, malaria, gout, and more to the Indians taking advantage of its anti-inflammatory and anticonvulsant properties, cannabis is deemed as an omnipotent plant.

A French psychiatrist Jean-Jacques Moreau de Tours tried cannabis for several mental disorders. He believed that the plant is hypnotic, analgesic, and anticonvulsant.

But the biggest question is: Can CBD really be good for mental health? Read on to find out more about the relation between CBD and mental health.

What is CBD?

Cbd For Mental Health

CBD is only one of the more than 100 cannabinoids found in cannabis. Of these cannabinoids, two are the most prominent. These are THC (tetrahydrocannabinol) and CBD (cannabidiol).

THC is the component that makes consumers “high.” It’s the typical feeling when consuming or smoking cannabis wherein consumers have this “floating” phenomenon. And that’s how the psychoactive effect of THC is.

On the other hand, CBD is the cannabinoid that doesn’t induce any psychoactive effect. While both cannabinoids carry a myriad of health and mental benefits, the latter is more inclined to mental health. And this is because of how they work with the human body’s endocannabinoid system.

CBD and Endocannabinoid System

Each and every human has a natural system called the endocannabinoid system (ECS). This system is extremely crucial for the body’s physiological processes. The human body innately produces its own endocannabinoids which work with several receptors and neurotransmitters.

These receptors and neurotransmitters are found throughout the human body and are responsible for making sure everything is working in topnotch order. For instance, apoptosis is a physiological process that is the control of cells through elimination. When this process isn’t regulated, abnormal cells such as cancer cells develop.

This is where the cannabinoids come into play. The body’s natural cannabinoids play an important role in keeping these functions modulated. That said, when one takes cannabis, the cannabinoids in it work with these receptors as well. CBD, however, doesn’t directly intercept these receptors. That’s why this component doesn’t make consumers high.

However, CBD has been a go-to for some with mental issues. Although more research is needed to prove the correlation between the two, a review that involved 83 eligible studies claimed that there is a very small improvement that THC and CBD relieve symptoms of anxiety.

Yet a lot of people use CBD for their mental issues. Below are some benefits of CBD for mental health.

Benefits of CBD for Mental Health

CBD for Depression

Further studies and evidence are needed to back up the claim that CBD is a treatment for depression. Depression is one of the leading causes of suicide. And a lot of people take advantage of bmwo coupon alternatives for their medical marijuana needs for the sake of alleviating depression.

According to a study that involved animals, there is good interaction between the 5-HT1A receptor and CBD. This is due to the anti-depressant and anxiolytic properties of CBD.

CBD for Anxiety and Quality Sleep

Not having enough sleep could take its toll on the human physical and mental aspects. A study was conducted to determine the effect of CBD on anxiety and sleep. Experts monitored 72 participants with concerns of anxiety and poor sleep over the course of one month.

Anxiety for 57 patients decreased while sleeping patterns for 48 patients improved within the first month as well.

CBD for Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a severe mental disorder that impacts how a person feels, thinks, and behaves. Schizophrenic people may take advantage of CBD to lessen Schizophrenic symptoms due to their antipsychotic properties.

Although CBD doesn’t cure Schizophrenia, studies show that it improves cognitive functions. After a span of six weeks, the participants diagnosed with Schizophrenia showed lower levels of psychotic symptoms.


Post-traumatic stress disorder is a common psychiatric condition after one undergoes a traumatic experience. And due to the therapeutic effects of CBD, it has been known to help cope with PTSD.

Additionally, one study has been conducted to show the relation of the ECS with emotional memory processing. That means, CBD can greatly induce positive effects on a person’s emotional wellbeing, which in turn, mitigates PTSD.

Final Words

Before integrating CBD into your daily life, it’s always recommended to consult your doctors for the right dosage. CBD may interact with other medications, hence, it’s better to prevent any adverse effects so as not to worsen the situation further.

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