Constructive as Destructive –“Perfectionism”
Is there something wrong in being “The Perfect” amongst many?
But what if the same Perfectionism is leading you towards Failure?
The Perfectionists always believe in two ways – Either it has to be perfect else it’s a 100% Failure! The so called “All or Nothing” mentality. But the dark truth is that perfection many a times misleads a person.
Here are some reasons why perfectionism misleads towards failure –
People with “The must have the best” attitude are found to be facing feelings of regret and dissatisfaction in anything they do. Because they have the “maximizing” mind-set. They are never satisfied with what they do and always seek for more and more perfection and hence remain unsatisfied forever.
Running away from Risks:
Mostly people with perfectionism are fuelled up with an intense fear of failure. And as a circumstance they always believe that “If in case I won’t be able to do it, they probably I won’t even try!” This fear of perfectionist make them actually face failure.
The imaginary power and creativity gets squashed if we constantly are hindering upon perfectionism.
Delegating? A BIG NO:
A perfectionist always finds it difficult in delegating tasks to other and all again the “All or Nothing” mentality comes into picture. Perfectionist people only believe in themselves and the term “MY WAY”.
Perfectionism can hurt our Relationships as Well –
Perfectionism is always an illusion. Though people say “He/She is perfect match for me” But life rarely works on exactly what we want- might that be work, goals or relationships. We have to get out of the mode that “To be happy, everything and everyone should be perfect”. Life probably requires to let go of these expectations of perfectness, because if we stick to it we will never be happy with the closed ones around us.
Following perfectionism will always raise your expectations to an unrealistically high standards which possibly can never be met. So accept the flaws, that’s what other perfectness lies within.
A way for Anxiety –
Having unrealistic expectations from yourself contributes towards increased feelings of anxiety and difficult coping with the symptoms.
Perfectionism is always motivated with fear, constantly worrying about how others perceive you, panic disorders. These beliefs and self-doubts contributes to increase in the anxiety with constant self-defeating thoughts and negative thinking.
Can Perfectionism be cured?
There’s nothing in this world which cannot be cured or taken care of. If you find that you are the one who is falling in trap of becoming the “Perfectionist”. Follow these few steps to get out of it and start thinking in new direction –
Try to get over:
Try to get over the obsession of improving and polishing everything to make it perfect. It might end up that person you are trying to show this is thinking of it as an average or sometimes overdone.
Understand that apart from Perfect there is also a word called “Good enough”. Don’t always drag yourself into the graph of “Perfectionism”
One Day, One Goal:
Assign yourself with small tasks or projects and just give yourself time of a day to finish it. Probably start with simple ones. And make sure that the main motto is just to do it and not to get obsessed with the final output. And allow yourself to say “It’s Done”!
It’s Okay to fail:
Try failing voluntarily on purpose, it may even be fun for you. You will find that failure isn’t that bad and it often means that you are thinking forward for challenging yourself. And suddenly you will fall for a Growth Mind-set.
Take small steps towards putting you out from the zone of “Perfectionism” because somewhere “Perfectionism” is opposite of happiness and growth. It makes ones growth stagnant and always keeps us in the “Unsatisfied and Stuck Zone”.
It’s okay to be imperfect and out of Box!