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Is romantic love an overrated and exaggerated feeling?

Do you think love (of the romantic kind) is overrated?

People talk about romantic love as if it’s a necessity, a need, a requirement to be considered “normal” in the society. But is love just as amazing as we hype it to be? The pop-culture or rather, our society has created this notion in our mind that romantic love is THE thing that makes us tick, that it’s the most miraculous and amazing thing that could happen to the average denizens of this blue dot. Well, I disagree. Romantic love in all its extravagance is one of the most overrated aspects of life.

Sure, we all tear up watching romantic movies. But in real life, romance doesn't seem to matter that much. In fact, it's the small, non-romantic acts of kindness and compassion that make us feel most loved. This is the case for most Americans, at least.

In today’s world where everyone is running short of patience and looking for quick fixes in life, who really has patience to actually fall in love? The time has long gone when it was said that- Love conquers all. Love is one of the strongest feelings among all but somehow we have completely ruined the magic of romantic love or maybe it never existed. It was always overrated.

Love would never be limited to one person and it should not be. Love is such a beautiful feeling, someone who understands you and appreciates you for who you are, motivates you to do something even when you are not confident about it, love is an extended version of yourself and would never be able to fit into one person.

Americans also seem to be quite unanimous when it comes to what doesn't make them feel loved. "In American culture, "it seems that controlling or possessive behaviours are the ones people do not associate with love."

In China, for instance, if a mother "punishes" a child's behavior — by not letting them play with other kids or fun toys, for example — people tend to see that as warm and affectionate, whereas in the Western world, the same attitude is seen as harsh, punitive, or unloving.

But although we may seem to have reached a consensus as a culture, individual differences still matter.

"It may not be wise to go into a relationship assuming that both of you know the same things about feeling loved and that all of the same things will make you feel loved,"

It’s important to communicate these things to each other, which can assist in being more in tune with each other and feeling loved in a relationship."



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Dating someone with depression and anxiety is not as easy as it seems. People with mental illnesses have a hell lot of problems, and maintaining a healthy dating life is one of them.

Things become even more difficult when you're dating someone with depression and anxiety, but you don't know how to deal with it. You either tend to get irritated by their behaviour or feel stuck in that relationship. So what can you do to avoid messing up your relationship and build a good connection despite their depression or anxiety!

1. Be kind:

The first and the best thing anyone dating a person with depression or anxiety can do is: To be kind. Most mental health patients feel a lot better only if kind people surround them. Empathy and love are crucial factors to anyone who is going through a mental illness.

2. Talk to them:

Ask them if they want to talk. Ask them what they want to speak about. Ask them when/where would they like to go out. Just talk. Communication is the key when you're with someone who is going through depression or anxiety. You never really know what they're up to, and so talking is the only thing that could help you. Also, do not forget to leave them alone for their me-time. Balance!

3. Take them to a therapist

Make sure they do not ignore their mental health. Most people with anxiety and depression tend to avoid treatment due to various reasons. Some are in denial; some have prejudices, while some don't have family support. Whatever the case be, make sure you support them throughout the treatment. Many a time, all they need is just a little push!

4. Handle physical intimacy delicately

Most people with anxiety and depression have sexual performance anxiety and intimacy as a trigger of their panic attacks. It's better to talk to them if they're okay with being intimate at a particular time. And although they agree, never forget to keep their SOS medicines handy. A severe panic attack can be fatal too.

5. Give them their space

Make sure you allow them enough me-time to process their thoughts. However, people at higher stages of depression and anxiety are prone to getting suicidal thoughts, and so it's necessary to be around them. You'll need to learn to create a balance between how much time you spend together and how much time they spend with themselves!

6. Take care of yourself

Never forget to do this when you're dating someone with a mental illness. Your mind is already full of your thoughts, and the responsibility of taking care of your partner might make you feel overwhelmed. So always make sure that you give yourself enough time, space, and self-care to keep things going! Do not be harsh on yourself. Instead, forgive yourself for the mistakes you commit while trying to help your partner. After all, you tried, and that's what matters!

These are the necessary advice one can give you if you're dating someone with depression or anxiety. It is not as simple as it seems. But remember, love overpowers all the difficulties, and you come out loud every time you struggle. 

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