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Two Ways to Change Your Life in the New Year

As 2019 is approaching everyone and their dog are evaluating the year gone by and making plans for the new year. So what will really change your life?


While there are many things that will change your life (and I plan on writing about quite a few of them leading up to New Years), there are two that stand out to me and that my coach has pointed out to me I don’t know how many times. So let’s have a look at those two, just in case you want 2019 to be phenomenal that is. And you do, don’t you?


My friend, William Whitecloud, always says that focus creates reality. I thought that sounded pretty savvy, but I don’t think it was until this year that I truly understood how powerful it is. Possibly after the aforementioned coach banged it into my head with verbal hammer.

Have you ever seen that gorilla video? The one where people tell you to look for the ball, or count how many balls there are in the video? By the end of the video you have successfully traced the ball, but you missed that a gorilla popped up and jumped around. Like totally missed it.

I’ve seen this video shown for hundreds of people. No one saw the gorilla.

When you focus on how many bills you have to pay, you get tired, you don’t feel like working, you make less money, you end up with a lot of bills to pay. Chances are you’ll also miss that one opportunity to slash your bills in half, because you’re not looking for it. You’re looking for bills.

This is why the attitude of gratitude works — when people feel thankful and happy, they are energized and they create completely different results from a person who sits moaning all day long. not least because their happiness makes other people want to be around them.

Shifting your focus is about more than that. Thinking about what’s working in your life, what you’re thankful for and what is making you happy all help. However, we all have thinking patterns and unless you decide to take charge of your focus from morning till night, not that much will change.

Focus Is About Refocusing

An old coaching technique is called reframing. Basically, you look upon a situation from the angle that’s the most advantageous to how you’ll react. For example: “I lost my home, everything’s gone, I’ll never get my things back.” “I lost my home, I can start with a clean slate, I’ll now create what I always dreamed of creating.” One of these ways of seeing things will leave you feeling deflated, one will make you filled with energy and determination.

It’s similar to how you might view a karate game. “I lost, I must have awful technique, I’m never going to get better, I will have a terrible night now instead of celebrating like I wanted to.” Or: “I lost, I will think through every move I made to learn from my mistakes, I’ll now become even better than I was yesterday.”

You can’t ignore mistakes, thinking “it was meant to happen,” but you can learn from them. And often when something goes wrong, or we lose something, we find something much better.

If you make a conscious decision to catch yourself whenever you see things in a negative light, you’ll be surprised to find how often it happens. You’ll also be surprised to see how your mood changes when you decide to change your outlook. You’ll have to be determined to monitor your thoughts from morning till night, but it will lead to a whole other level of happiness. You’ll likely also be much more productive as you’ll find solutions rather than reveling in the problems.


Once you have your focus sorted, it’s time to take action. The reason you need to have your focus clear first is because you’ll create what your focus is on. Whatever you focus your camera on, that’s the image you’ll get. It’s like showing up at a job interview (because you took action) thinking about how bad you’ll do at the interview (so your brain is looking for a way to achieve it).

Your brain is constantly looking for solutions. It’s an amazing thing. That’s why, you need to consciously decide what it’s looking to create. If your attention is on your fear of failure, your brain is looking for ways to achieve it.

Don’t worry. We all have fears. We all have thought patterns that are anything but helpful. It doesn’t mean we’ll end up creating disasters, it just means that every time your brain goes there, you have to direct it somewhere else.

Found your focus? Take action. Without action, there will be no reaction. If you want to create something, you have to make it happen.

So set your goal, then take action. You don’t have to do something grand. Just put one foot in front of the next and before you know it, you’re up the mountain. Just take the next obvious step as it presents itself, over and over again. If nothing comes to you, wait. Refocus. Something will appear that’s obvious to do.

In Closing

Focus and action can change your life. There are many layers to understanding focus and really taking charge of your own thought patterns, so as to create ones where you’re constantly seeing the opportunities and solutions. However, by simply shifting your thoughts to the positive and what’s possible over and over again, the actions you need to take to achieve what you want to achieve, will become obvious.

There you have it. Two ways to change your life in the new year!

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It's really hot outside right now - and sometimes the question is, what are we going to do now to offer the kids something despite the heat? We have some tips for you, maybe you can use them with your little ones.

Water fun in the pool

We have a pool in the garden, but it is not very big, about 3 meters in diameter, in our eyes absolutely sufficient for a fun or quiet cooling. Surely you can not swim in it, but in order to "dive" for an object, or "water dances" or just to relax, it is definitely enough.

One should not forget that also in the water to the sun protection must be thought. That means, as in the outdoor swimming pool: do not forget to apply creams. In the best case, the pool is in the shade or is protected by a larger parasol. Ours is in the sun - we hold the children in strong heat and sun to regular water breaks, so that they can then stay in the shade. Sometimes they do not see it directly, but with some persuasion and an ice cream or drinking break, it works.

Water fun without pool

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Not everyone is in possession of a pool, has no garden or simply lacks the money for the purchase. Alternatively - as with us earlier - a small pool of water or an old bathtub can be set up and filled or even just a bucket of water, where it quickly sets the fun, namely, if you use small syringes and injected each other wet.


Or fills bombs and plays catching, at some point they are sure to break and depending on how cold the water is, in some the screaming is certainly great.

Do you have gradients on the property? Then try a waterslide. A tarpaulin is laid out, at best a slightly longer one, filling a bucket of water and sliding down with or without a butt-end slide. Or build a shower or a sprinkler, where you can also refresh yourself wonderfully. However, this is more likely if you can take the water from a well or rainwater collection tank. Tap water is too expensive.

To eat and drink

You should always encourage the children to drink. Of course, they only do it when they are thirsty, and then it is already too late. There is then already a lack of fluid in the body. For example, 10-year-olds should drink around 1.2 liters a day. In case of heat, sports or illness this need increases. Outdoors, the glasses or cups should always be capped, as there is a risk that bees or wasps will fly in. The safest are lockable plastic water bottles.

Our favorite drinks are:

  • water diluted with water
  • Springs of any kind
  • sometimes cold tea (fruit tea, slightly sweetened)
  • water

To eat at noon in such a heat often nothing hot, but rather fruit, pudding and cold dishes, cereals with fruit, yogurt, milk and other things, which falls into our hands.

What you can do with children when it's really hot

Summer is finally here, and that's right! In the meantime, if it's too hot outside for you, we have collected a lot of ideas for "cool" activities with big and small children - whether at home or on vacation.

If the outside temperature is more than 30 degrees Celsius and the sun is burning, you should do the same to the inhabitants of southern countries: stay inside during the day. Unfortunately, it is rarely as pleasantly cool in Central European apartments as in a Moroccan riad or Spanish patio.

Our hot-tip game tip: Turn on the fan and spray each other with a water atomizer - the wind adds a great deal of "glorious cool" factor and the spray is so fine that the floor does not get really wet (and slippery).

Funny for smaller children are also soap bubbles, tissue paper snippets or light cloths that can fly in the vortex of the fan; the elderly may try to keep folded aircraft in the air with the help of the fan.


Summer Idea Number one: bathing, splashing and swimming

On the beach and the sea you have to do without - or at least wait until it finally goes on vacation? Well, it would be too hot for your little ones anyway.

Even on the smallest balcony fits a wash basin for prattling. With watering can, pots and scooping tools, little children are busy for hours. And if it is too hot even there, just sit in the bathtub with your child.


Tip for shower-only users: An inflatable paddling pool can be squeezed into the lowest bath.


Do you have a yard or garden, where the temperatures are reasonably bearable, then you can declare this area to the water playground (a meadow in the park is of course also). A garden hose with spray attachment, a few water guns from the toy store (which should be sold out, Amazon often provides the very next day) and self-filled depth charges are the basic equipment for a day full of "Aqua Fun".

Your imagination knows no bounds: homemade glitter-glibber , bodypainting with finger paints or ice cube massage - you'll probably find more "cool stuff".


On the way in the city it gets really unbearable on hot days - the children sweat and nölen, playgrounds lie in the sun and on the slide one burns up the A ... In many cities public fountains offer a splendid refreshment.


Experience report thoroughly before you let your offspring climb into these facilities:

How is the soil under water - overgrown with slippery algae, sharp-edged or with tripping hazards?

What is the water quality? (if it is not drinking water, infants should not bathe here)

How strong are the fountains, is there a risk of injury or are the facilities even endangered by playing children? (You have the duty of supervision! If your children break something while you are supervising them, the liability insurance does not cover the damage.)

Are there signs or prohibitions for the use of the fountain? Where many tourists are traveling, bathing children are often not so welcome.

Is the fountain in the shade? When playing in the sun, while they are pleasantly wet, children do not notice the heat and get a quick sunburn or sunstroke.


For reasons you should not let your kids play naked in such actions; instead of a bathing suit or bikini, T-shirts and shorts get better, which you then exchange for dry ones. After all, you use the fountain quite by accident and not specifically as an outdoor pool, right?


By the way, much cooler than bathing lakes are brooks - if you come to one (in the city area many small watercourses are unfortunately completely embedded in concrete or laid underground), then enjoy the ice-cold foot bath.


If you really want to take a good bath, the early morning hours or the time just before the closing time are ideal for a visit to the outdoor pool. If you jump into the pool first, you will enjoy cool temperatures, more space and shade on the sunbathing lawn; the soil is not yet so heated and the ozone pollution of the air is still low.

After work or a kindergarten visit you are best left with a visit to the outdoor pool, even if you really want to swim. At 6 pm, most of the outdoor guests are slowly packing up, the area is empty and you can enjoy the water until the end.

Tip: pack a light picnic and have dinner in the bathroom. Then you can put your clean, well-fed and well-made children directly to bed at home.


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