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True Love Is Wiping Someone's Ass

No, I didn't get that wrong. I didn't mean smacking someone's ass. Thought that might, from time to time, be required too.

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When people talk about love, they often talk about chemistry. About intellectual, physical, sexual and emotional compatibility. About finding someone who understands them. Even better if they also want to create similar things in life, so that it's possible to build a life together. But by the end of the day, is that love, or attraction? 

What Is Love? 

It could be said that love is respect. It's allowing someone to be who they are, while for that matter being honest with them, if they're doing something to harm themselves. That's when some tough love, might be required. The aforementioned smacking. 

Love isn't just about that though. To love someone is a verb. It's about dedication. Showing up. A willingness to support someone else. You shouldn't sacrifice yourself, that's a recipe for disaster if there ever was one and has nothing to do with love, but you might have to make sacrifices. 

Commitment - the Glue of Love

For different people, commitment looks different. We all define our relationships differently - some want one partner, some many. Some want to live apart, some together. The commitment looks different, but it's still there. A commitment to support each other. 

I learned about commitment when mom died. From that day, both sets of my grandparents were there for us. They became our new sets of parents. 

When gran, some twenty years later, was senile I helped her go to the bathroom. And somehow it dawned on me that, that was love. You're there for each other. Through thick and thin. In sickness and health. And the thing is, you want to be. You want to be there for those you love. 

This year I was with my other gran in hospice. Lived next to her side for the last few days of her life. There were times I thought I couldn't take it any longer. If I had to withstand another moment of her suffering I'd collapse. One night I almost panicked when my dad left for the day. But the only thing worse than being there, was not being there. I couldn't stand the thought of her being alone. Someone had to wipe her mouth with water when she was thirsty. Someone had to ensure the doctor came when she was in pain. She couldn't call for help. And the fact that there were other patients there who were alone, freaked me out beyond measure. 

Beyond Commitment Lies Freedom

Commitment doesn't mean staying in an abusive relationship. Commitment doesn't mean giving up your life to please someone else. Commitment doesn't mean staying with someone who decides to suddenly go down a path you don't desire to walk. Commitment simply means a dedication to being there for another human being. And that means showing up, even when it's uncomfortable. 

Being in hospice with gran was uncomfortable. I used to be really scared of losing people, after mom's death and I didn't do particularly well with losing my other gran to senility, either, but this year I felt a sense of completion. I learned what it was like to love fully and let go. I wasn't scared of grief anymore, and it allowed me to love. 

Going beyond what's comfortable is necessary for any relationship. Making sacrifices is too. But never, ever sacrificing yourself. 

They say commitment is a trap, but anything in this life worth doing is a commitment. Anything you'd love to create will come with obstacles. On the other side of those obstacles lies the treasure. In an age where strong attraction is often confused with true love, I think it's something worth remembering. 



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1) Let Him Be

You have to understand one concept that if you want to get a guy to like you again, you have to accept the fact that you all have broken up and adapt the new life you are having now. Live happily and temporarily pretend that he did not together with you before. Let him chill out and alone for sometime while you gotta check out what is the real course of the break up and how to get a guy to like you again without memorize too much on the break up issue.

2) Try Something New

My friend, take a time off from this relationship and let yourself live a new life first. Check out new stuff that you are interested in but did not able to try out in the period of last relationship. You should know that when you dive yourself in the new and great thing, you will show some kind of attraction to the people around you because you are having your own great life. Let your ex guy see what you are capable in, not to impress him but just to let him know naturally that you are able to be good in something other than loving him! You can also present him a small gift to show him that you are normal and not deperate.

3) Do not show desperation

This is an extremely important point that you should bear in mind, do not show desperation to the guy. If you want to know the core of how to get a guy to like you again, this will be one of the major one! Not only guy, everyone of us do not like others to be desperate to OWN you! If you keep calling him back and message him to show that how eager you want him or how much you miss him, the final result will be he trying to escape from you as far as he can…. If you want to see him, you may get a group outing or party, do not try to force him to be alone with you (unless he date you again~)… For a period of time, it is best that you can busy with your own healing or enjoy your single life.

4) Open to other dating

Hey, do not have the wrong concept that you must remain single to get your guy back to you. it is a great action to show that you are available to others now. Showing that you are single and available to others not only will not defer you from getting a guy to like you again, rather, it will lift up your social status and create value to yourself.

Just imagine this, if you are the one who dump your ex boyfriend, and he remains a miserable single who live a miserable life for 1 whole year, will you want to get back to him? Of course not, rather, when you see that your ex boy friend is close to some pretty girl, you will have a feeling to get him back to yourself rather to other girls! Vice versa, it is extremely important that you know how to maintain or even raise your social value to your guy. This is one of the great trick on how to get a guy to like you again that most of our fellow girls are not aware of…

5) Have a happy mindset

One of the reasons of having a breakup may be led by unhappy relationship. Hence, it is time for you to refresh yourself and make yourself a more happy person. On one hand, you are able to live in a better life that you did not have during last relationship, on the other hand, you are able to create an impression to your ex boyfriend that you are having a great life, if he is able to get back to you, he will be able to enjoy and share your happiness as well!

Moreover, be a cheerful person rather than a sad one will definitely help you to become prettier and more attractive in every aspect. Do not give any excuse to yourself and take the action to implement the above stated advices, they are great on how to get a guy to like you again. Personally I did manage to get my guy to like me again, hence I really hope that you are able to benefit from them as well.

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