The Power of Words
How you use your words greatly affects your life — and those around you.
For many, many years man has created rituals and spells using words. Ancient people believed that words have power. That if you say a spell using the right intention, you could affect reality.
Today, people don’t really believe that just because you say something, it comes true. However, experiments have revealed that people who are prayed for heal faster. The power of thought, intention, prayer…whatever you want to call it, is actually real. Only, maybe not in the way some people may think. It’s not like saying “please let it rain” will make it rain. All experiments have revealed is that other people’s thoughts/prayers can influence people. Of course, there’s also quantum physics, which seem to suggest that thoughts can affect reality.
People in this day and age often talk about The Secret — the book that stated that you can make anything happen simply by thinking the right thoughts. Now, while your thoughts influence your life, possibly more so than anything else, that doesn’t mean you can entirely control reality — it’s not like you’re alone on this planet. You’re not the only force in operation. Likewise, if you spend all day worrying about your health, then pray for healing for five minutes a day — which is the stronger thought? If you want to master your thoughts, it’s a minute by minute process. Where is your focus? Most of the time our subconscious is thinking a lot of thoughts we are barely aware of. Only when you reach the point where your annoyance, happiness, anger, etc. boil over do you notice what’s been going on.
More than anything becoming aware of your thoughts allows you to determine how you want to view reality — choosing the point of view that serves you most. Thinking “I’m a failure because I failed that test” and thinking “gosh, I learned so much by failing that test,” lead to two very different states of mind. One will serve you, one won’t.
Likewise, getting ketchup all over your clothes when at a big party, you can either see it as a great conversation starter that you can have excellent fun with during the night, or you can see it as a huge embarrassment and hide away in the shadows.
If you look upon it that way, can you see how much power your words hold? Depending on what you’re telling yourself, you feel and therefore act in different ways.
Now, this is all about you, but what about the words you use to describe others? Imagine you meet a new employee at work and on their first day, you tell them all the things that annoy you about a colleague. Your colleague may have done lots of great stuff, but that day you’re annoyed with them because of something that happened, so you vent your frustration. This, in turn, may lead to the new employee avoiding that colleague. Your words may have prevented a great friendship, or work partnership from forming.
Similarly, people tend to have a lot of opinions about things that they don’t even understand. Friends get together to discuss lovers and dish out advice about people they’ve never met. At best they have one side of the story. That story may, or may not be distorted depending on the person telling it. On top of it, you might be biased when giving advice — maybe you’re having a rough patch with relationships, or maybe you’re currently seeing the world through rose-colored glasses.
That’s not to say we can’t all give advice. Just be careful when you do so. Is your advice based on facts, or bias?
Whenever you put something into words, it becomes tangible. And once that happens, you possess a certain level of power.
There is a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s about the four agreements you can make with yourself to live a happier and more fulfilled life. One of the agreements is: “be impeccable with your word.” This is for the simple reason that your words can help shape reality; both for yourself and other people.
I was reminded of this the other day as I stumbled across the hacking incident in 2014 where Sony Entertainment had some emails hacked. By some emails I mean over 100,000 emails. And amongst them were once where they dissed stars like Angelina Jolie and Leonardo DiCaprio, as well as cracking racist jokes about Barrack Obama.
Expressing dislike for a person is normal and banter often involves taking the piss out of politicians we don’t like. Ever cracked a Trump joke? I know I have. But these emails were beyond tasteless. Some were downright disgusting. It wasn’t Jolie, Obama and DiCaprio that looked bad, but the execs at Sony.
When you speak ill of someone, imagine them being in the room. It’s one thing to give valid criticism and express your hurt, or dislike of their behavior. It’s another thing to say tasteless comments that will help neither them, nor yourself.
When you next want to moan and complain, or say that someone is a horrible person, think about how you’re spending your time and energy and how that will reflect back on your own life. Likewise, when you’re moaning about things in your life, or caught thinking thoughts about how bad you are, how horrible life is, etc. consider how you’re spending your time and energy. If you want to create great things in your life, start viewing events through a favorable lens. What can you learn? How can you grow? How can you turn something around so what seems like a disadvantage turns into an advantage? Sometimes a roadblock makes your re-route to a much more favorable route.