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How to Express Love

Did you know that people have different ways of expressing love? Probably. Did you also know that people don’t feel loved unless you express your love in a way they understand?

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We all need love to flourish. You may be a monk, living in solitude, focusing only on self-love. However, most of us have personal relationships. Friends, family, lovers and co-workers. All of them want to feel loved, or at the the very least, appreciated by us.

Sometimes you hear people say: “I don’t feel like so-or-so loves me anymore,” yet if you ask the other person, they think it’s obvious they love them. Why is that?

Most likely because some needs have been left unfulfilled. We have ideas about what a person should be doing if they love us. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of those ideas ourselves. We just feel loved, or we don’t feel loved. We don’t necessarily know why.

Gary Chapman wrote The Five Love Languages many years ago. I still remember reading it and being completely mesmerized by what I learned. I’d just come out of a relationship where I couldn’t figure out why I hadn’t enjoyed the relationship that much. Because technically there hadn’t been anything that wrong. But I had felt unfulfilled because I hadn’t been loved in a way that I understood. Now, that’s not to say there weren’t other things wrong with that relationship, but this was definitively one of them. And reading the book, I felt confident that there was a ay of creating great relationships. It gave me hope.

Below are the five love languages Gary Chapman came up with when working with couples; ways in which people love and feel loved.

Acts of Service

Ever felt good when someone offered to mow your lawn, do the dishes, or help you with homework? They performed an act of service for you. They gave their time to a task just so as to help you. That’s one way of showing love for you.

Words of Affirmation

When we first meet someone, it’s natural to compliment them. We tell them what we like about them. It’s that first, magical, part of romance. Then, as time wears on, we think they know what we like about them. Maybe they do, but that doesn’t mean the don’t need to hear it.

When someone does something you like, whether it’s showing they’re a good human being by volunteering, or doing something that drives you crazy in bed, compliment them. When they look sexy, or cute, tell them. When you enjoy what they are wearing, tell them. When they do something that impresses you, tell them. In general, tell them about the good traits and looks they have that you enjoy, as well as the tasks they do that you enjoy/are impressed by.

Gifts

For some people, a gift is a sign of love. It could be a homebred cookie, it could be a diamond, or a single red rose. It could be a shell you found on the beach, or a box of chocolate pralines. What people desire is different, but as a general rule, the gifting itself is important. And the fact that you stopped long enough to ponder what they may like.

Quality Time

You sit next to each other watching movies, you sleep next to each other, you have breakfast next to each other, you clean the house next to each other, you go shopping next to each other…but do you actually spend quality time together? Doing something together that you both enjoy, or having meaningful conversations? For many people, to feel loved, they need to know you set quality time aside for them.

Physical Touch

It could be holding hands, it could be hugging, it could be having sex. For some physical touch is the biggest sign you love them. They need to be close to you to feel loved.

In Closing

While most people have one, or two, love languages they prefer over all others, some have no preference for one, over another. They need a little bit of everything to feel loved. The truth is, we all need a little bit of everything, but some need more of one thing.  


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I understand my friend, you are now lost and without a direction on how to get a boy/men to like you again after breakup. A break up is very painful and heart breaking moment. I know because I experienced before. It takes time to heal, sometime it even will haunt you back after some time later. A lot of people cannot let go of this nightmare and experience and hence it changes their life, into miserable and undesired life. Hey, I believe that you definitely do not want to go through this kind of life changing process and trap yourself in this bad situation. Why don’t you do something to make yourself better and learn how to get a guy to like you again. Yes, the guy who leave you will come back to you if you know how to do so..

Check out this widely trusted and proven solution on gets your ex back if you still love him…

How to get a guy to like you again

On the other hand, I hereby provide a few proven relationship advices on how to get a guy to like you again that helped not only me but lots of people to recover from a sad break up and eventually get back with their love one.

1) Let Him Be

You have to understand one concept that if you want to get a guy to like you again, you have to accept the fact that you all have broken up and adapt the new life you are having now. Live happily and temporarily pretend that he did not together with you before. Let him chill out and alone for sometime while you gotta check out what is the real course of the break up and how to get a guy to like you again without memorize too much on the break up issue.

2) Try Something New

My friend, take a time off from this relationship and let yourself live a new life first. Check out new stuff that you are interested in but did not able to try out in the period of last relationship. You should know that when you dive yourself in the new and great thing, you will show some kind of attraction to the people around you because you are having your own great life. Let your ex guy see what you are capable in, not to impress him but just to let him know naturally that you are able to be good in something other than loving him! You can also present him a small gift to show him that you are normal and not deperate.

3) Do not show desperation

This is an extremely important point that you should bear in mind, do not show desperation to the guy. If you want to know the core of how to get a guy to like you again, this will be one of the major one! Not only guy, everyone of us do not like others to be desperate to OWN you! If you keep calling him back and message him to show that how eager you want him or how much you miss him, the final result will be he trying to escape from you as far as he can…. If you want to see him, you may get a group outing or party, do not try to force him to be alone with you (unless he date you again~)… For a period of time, it is best that you can busy with your own healing or enjoy your single life.

4) Open to other dating

Hey, do not have the wrong concept that you must remain single to get your guy back to you. it is a great action to show that you are available to others now. Showing that you are single and available to others not only will not defer you from getting a guy to like you again, rather, it will lift up your social status and create value to yourself.

Just imagine this, if you are the one who dump your ex boyfriend, and he remains a miserable single who live a miserable life for 1 whole year, will you want to get back to him? Of course not, rather, when you see that your ex boy friend is close to some pretty girl, you will have a feeling to get him back to yourself rather to other girls! Vice versa, it is extremely important that you know how to maintain or even raise your social value to your guy. This is one of the great trick on how to get a guy to like you again that most of our fellow girls are not aware of…

5) Have a happy mindset

One of the reasons of having a breakup may be led by unhappy relationship. Hence, it is time for you to refresh yourself and make yourself a more happy person. On one hand, you are able to live in a better life that you did not have during last relationship, on the other hand, you are able to create an impression to your ex boyfriend that you are having a great life, if he is able to get back to you, he will be able to enjoy and share your happiness as well!

Moreover, be a cheerful person rather than a sad one will definitely help you to become prettier and more attractive in every aspect. Do not give any excuse to yourself and take the action to implement the above stated advices, they are great on how to get a guy to like you again. Personally I did manage to get my guy to like me again, hence I really hope that you are able to benefit from them as well.

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