Losing my pet was an earth-shattering experience. It shook me to my core and brought forth grief I did not know I could feel. It is an experience I wish no one else would ever have to go through. Yet every day many go through the same pain that I did.
The loss of my cat put so many things into perspective; it was like a flip switched inside me and the world seemed cold and lonely after it was done. However, through the tragedy, I learned a great deal about love, loss and the beauty of life. I hope that these thoughts can help you in dealing with your own loss in some way.
We don’t understand what we have until it is gone.
For a long while, my cat felt like a fixture in my life, immovable and constant. It rarely occurred to me that one day she would be gone. It almost seems silly in retrospect, but I find that we as humans are like this with a lot of things in our life. We take for granted the companions both human and otherwise around us, not realizing that they are finite. The passing of my cat came as such a shock partially because of this. My mind filled up with thoughts of time that I could have spent with her and the times I ignored her for other matters. It was this that taught me a valuable lesson; treat those around you as if you might never see them again.
Some things you can’t get over... but you can move on.
I don’t think the sadness of my pets passing will ever truly leave me. Years have passed and although in some ways it may have faded, it still hurts and I still mourn. Yet I have grown to accept, accept that it has happened and despite the difficulty that I must go on. For some this is easier than others, for me it was one of the hardest periods of my life. For you, it may be easier or even harder but know that at some point you will be able to move past it.
Remember the good.
Occasionally when I think of my cat my mind wanders to her passing. That moment was so impactful that it dominates easily over years of joy. Yet I have found that when I make an effort to look further back to the days when she was still here, I can remember fondly all the times of happiness spent in her company. On a bad day, it can even wash away all the negative thoughts and bring a smile to my face.
You are not alone.
Often times it can feel as if the pain is yours and not to be shared. Yet I found that many friends and family members were there for me at the time of her passing. So many people have lost their beloved pets and can relate to the pain and loneliness. I found that simply calling a friend and telling them how I felt made all the difference in the world on some days. No one should have to grieve alone and you should always lean on those you trust to help you through a period like this.
It is all too easy to pretend to be happy.
Perth based Vet – The Pet Practice that those that have never experienced the loss of a beloved pet cannot understand how it feels and some may expect you to simply get over it. Sometimes it's easy to just pretend that you are okay and bottle up your emotions, pushing your grief to the side. This is unhealthy and you should avoid it. While it may seem that you can’t face the reality of the situation, I have found that facing it is the best way to come to terms with the loss.